Urgent checklist

Use the parts that fit your situation. If anyone is in immediate danger, call 999.

1. 1

   Understand what's happening

   Ask what the concern is, which process has started, what happens next and when. Check whether there's a safety plan, a section 47Section 47. Local authority duty to make enquiries where there is reasonable cause to suspect significant harm. enquiry, a police investigation or a court application.

   Check whether you have parental responsibilityParental responsibility. The legal rights, duties and authority a parent has in relation to a child. It does not on its own guarantee a set amount of time with the child.. It affects what you're told and consulted on.

2. 2

   Start a record

   Write down names, roles, contact details, dates and the exact wording of any restriction or urgent request.

   Keep original messages, emails, photos and documents. Don't edit, crop or delete them.

3. 3

   Protect your child

   Your child may be confused, worried or overwhelmed. Tell them they're safe to talk, listen without pushing for details, and keep adult worries and paperwork away from them.

   Don't question or coach them, contact witnesses or argue by message.

4. 4

   Get the right help

   Police: If you're arrested or invited to an interview, ask for a criminal solicitor. Read every bail notice and follow every condition exactly, even if someone invites contact.

   Court or PLOPLO / Public Law Outline / pre-proceedings. Formal process when the local authority is considering an application for a care or supervision order.: If you get a Letter Before ProceedingsLetter Before Proceedings. A formal letter telling a parent or other person with parental responsibility that the local authority is considering applying for a care or supervision order., a PLO letter, a care application, a hearing notice or any other court papers, contact a solicitor straight away.

   Where your child lives or contact: Ask for the legal status, the reasons, the review date and the contact arrangements in writing. Get family law advice before agreeing to anything open-ended.

5. 5

   Ask for what you need

   Tell social care about any disability, language, literacy or communication need. Ask for the adjustment or interpreter you need.

6. 6

   Look after yourself

   Talk to someone today: a friend, your GP, a peer group or a helpline. Keep your normal routines going. If you're struggling to cope, call NHS 111 and choose the mental health option, any time.